Skinny People Problems

I will try to avoid doing that girl thing of never being satisfied with my weight, however I will continue to set new goals for myself as I accomplish them because I now see that complacency will make you and keep you fat.  Based on my bathroom scale this morning, I have lost a total of 93lbs since January 2011.  This picture was taken on May 24, 2013 and I was happy that Santa agreed to take a picture with me on his day off. 😉

Two and a half years of changeI will admit that I’m proud of this accomplishment and although it has become cliche, especially for athletes, I absolutely acknowledge that I could not have done this without God.  Specifically, I know that I am not only an emotional eater, for too long I turned to food for comfort.  That resulted in me weighing more than 250 lbs nearly one year after having twins (I weighed less DURING the pregnancy).  I ate, and ate, and ate because I was miserable and food gave me a temporary fix.  I have learned that God is my permanent fix and while I will continue this new, healthy lifestyle, it comes with problems.

I call these problems “Skinny People Problems”

Like any good list, I will number these in order of their problematic nature and of course we will countdown because who doesn’t like a little delayed gratification

My top 10 Skinny People Problems

10. It used to happen that when I went to parties or concerts, I could have conversations with friends or remain somewhat anonymous and enjoy the music.  Now when I go parties or concerts, people who I have never met want to take pictures of you or with you or dance with you and cause others to watch you laugh and have a good time.

9. When I was heavy, electronic sliding doors would open within 10 feet of my approach.  Now that I’m “skinny” I have to wave my arms in order for the motion sensor to detect me with many of those doors…also, doors seem to be harder to open, despite my increased muscle mass.

8. Eating out was always fun for me.  I could order savory meals, and ate every single bite of food that I or my date paid for.  These days, when I go out to eat, I hardly get through half of the meal before I feel full and because I lost by eating clean, I can taste the sugar and grease and it’s unappetizing.

7. If I was coming down an aisle or trying to pass behind someone, they would stand up and move or slide their chair up as far as it could go for me to pass.  Now, they hardly move their legs at all for me to pass and certainly don’t think twice about moving their chair when I need to get behind it.

6. People wouldn’t offer me food unless everyone was eating.  Now, people will offer me food if there is anything edible in the vicinity because they seem to think that I am hungry all the time or maybe I just look hungry.

5. You expect your clothes to get bigger as your body shrinks and it is exciting to buy smaller sizes, but do you expect your shoes to get bigger because your feet shrink too? Some of my favorite shoes are now too big and I have to get special inserts to wear them.

4. When you are a corpulent girl, friends don’t try to pick you up and no one asks you how much you weigh.  These days, guy friends want to pick me up when they hug me or even carry me and I have to remember how much I weigh or I guess I could just learn to lie about it like a normal woman.

3. I used to have a lap that was versatile and useful.  If I wanted to count coins or basically anything smaller than a half dollar, my thighs would keep the objects from the floor.  These days, when I sit with my knees together, my thighs don’t touch.  I can’t use my lap to hold things and I have to cross my legs to achieve the same goal.

2. I’ve always known that I have a tailbone, I’ve actually seen the x-rays.  I can now FEEL my tailbone when I sit down. I still have plenty of “junk in my trunk” and what I thought was enough booty but when I sit, especially on a semi-hard surface, I can feel my own tailbone…crazy.

Before I get to the number one problem that skinny people have that I didn’t expect, here’s another before and after picture.

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1. The number one problem that skinny people have that I didn’t expect is…

Being Cold All The Time!

You can see in the pictures above that I had plenty of layers on my body to keep me warm.  These days, I have to keep at least one sweater, often two with me even in the middle of summer.  People in Houston LOVE their AC and most buildings are no warmer than 75 degrees.  I feel cold at just about any setting under 78.  I now understand why skinny people look forward to summer and spend so much time being active…they need to stay warm.

Obviously, these problems are not actual problems and I’m being cheeky but they are certainly things that have happened that I didn’t expect.  I am grateful to those who have supported me in their various ways and because of them, I pay it forward and support others.  One of my more well known supporters is Michael Berry who has encouraged many of his listeners by imploring them to get off their collective butts and do something about it.  The favorite phrase that he uses that I have adopted is, “if it is to be, it’s up to me.”  And while that statement applies to most everything in your life, I have another that it similar that I now prefer…  MamaInTheMiddle and Michael Berry

“While it’s true that through God all things are possible, if we do not first seek Him and ask for His help, we cannot expect it and if we do not follow tried and true principles like burning more calories than you eat and moving more frequently and regularly, any amount of begging for divine intervention does not work.”

Be blessed 🙂

I’m Back!…kinda

I haven’t blogged on this website in nearly one year and while I recognize that allowing that much time to pass between posts creates an irrelevancy that happens after one month on the internet, I was still blogging, in other places and living my life.  I posted a blog more than two years ago at beginning of my weight loss journey.  I added a few more posts along the way, some funny, some sexy or serious, and others enlightened.

Well, my next post is going to be funny, but it is definitely an update to the weight loss mission that I have been on.  I am proud of myself, but I have realized that losing the weight is only the beginning.  I must now continue to live and remember my new script, I must make choices that are healthy for my body and avoid turning to food for comfort.  I am also learning that it is a good idea to share with others because I am not the only one going through something like this and encouraging one another is a great way to support/continue this healthy lifestyle. For all who have finished and met their goals, congratulations; for all who are beginning or somewhere in the middle of their journey, let’s keep moving forward.

Blessings 🙂

Coming To Terms With My Own Fallacies

I’ve always been the smart girl in the group.  Everyone knows that in most groups of people you will have different types that fall into a category or two and end up being defined by that.  You may have the artsy one, the cute one, the tall one, the fat one, or like me the smart one.  I have taken pride in my intelligence and I even proudly own the term bookworm.  However, my paradigm is shifting as I fight my bad habits of soothing my emotions by eating and realize how much I have had to push to achieve my now 60 pound weight loss.

I used to believe that people who were in shape or healthy or athletic were somehow shallow and self absorbed.  I used to attribute their beautiful, healthy bodies to good genes or enough money to workout all day and therefore belonged to group that would never include me.  I used to believe that some people were just meant to be fat or big boned or plump.  The longer that I look at my changing body and look toward my goal of losing another 40-50 pounds (maybe more) I realize that not only will I belong to that group of people, it forces me to come to terms with my own devastatingly flawed thinking.

I must now admit that the people who I looked at with awe because of their flawless looking figures are usually VERY hard working, intelligent people.  They usually understand sacrifice and selflessness more than most people who spend their days eating doughnuts and drinking sodas.  While there are shallow people in every demographic that can possibly be defined, people who spend time pre-preparing healthy, clean meals and pushing their bodies past the limit to strengthen it should not be thrown into that category willy-nilly.  I have had to admit that my thought process was in fact prejudiced, ignorant and frankly, based on jealousy.  Getting in shape requires something that most Americans do not understand, sacrifice.  Staying in shape requires something that even fewer people execute on, that thing called follow through or consistency.  Feeding your body properly, bringing your temptations under control and challenging your own limitations in order to reach a goal is how you build character.  Anyone can simply eat whatever is convenient or what is put in front of you, it requires effort to make sure that what you are consuming is beneficial and lines up with your personal objectives.

This post may not be as sexy as the previous, but I had to write it because it speaks to me.  So, I will continue waking up at 5:45am to do a workout in my living room before my four children wake up.  I will continue to avoid making excuses when I don’t feel up to it or realize that I may be taking on feats beyond what I can handle because I am a single mother.  I will continue to consistently push toward my goal by prepping my meals ahead of time and even when the scale doesn’t move or goes up a couple of pounds I will be relentless in my pursuit knowing that at the end of the day, hard work always pays off.  I will do this because I want to teach my children to believe in themselves but more than that, I want me to believe in me.

Testing Out My Man Goggles

“A man marries a woman hoping she won’t change but a woman marries a man expecting he will.” — Author Unknown

We often hear the cliché, “men are visual creatures” and while men who say it understand, I’m not sure that women do.  I am not a man, nor will I claim to understand everything about them, but I believe that I am growing to understand more about them and some of my best teachers are my six and four year old sons.

As a single mother of four, I am frequently tired although I have found more ways to take care of myself including losing 60 pounds in the last 18 months.  During this time, I have noticed that my boys react to me in different ways depending upon how I look.  Initially, I brushed it off, but eventually I had to investigate further.  What I have realized is that many, if not most, men quite literally interpret everything in their world through their visual cortex.  I highlight this in comparison to a woman’s tendency to process her world through her relationships with others.  What I am realizing, a bit late mind you, is the effect that a woman’s changing look can have on her relationships with the men in her life, specifically the one with whom she is romantically involved.

I am considering the point of a reasonable man who is intelligent enough to understand that a woman’s body will change if she has carried and birthed children.  Also, a man who would understand if his lady has a chronic illness or there are circumstances beyond her control that has changed the way that she looks.  Aside from these natural changes or unpreventable circumstances, many women simply give up or fail to recognize what their 30+ pound weight gain can do to their relationship.  To draw a parallel that almost anyone can understand, I will compare it to a man who has given up on his attempts to further his career or provide for his family and who slowly allows his job performance to slip and eventually gets fired or laid off.  I have personally dealt with such a man in a relationship and it is no less than a complete let down and can easily be a deal breaker.  If my premise is correct, a man who must watch his girlfriend or wife gain weight for no other reason than pure apathy, why is it not the same?

Why is a woman who leaves a shiftless man applauded as being strong, but if a man leaves his woman because she stopped making an effort and gained weight for no clinical reason, he’s an asshole?

I would assert that he is not, and it is for this reason that I now view the chocolate brownies, doughnuts and cupcakes, and fried things that seem to hover in my world constantly through a completely different lens.  While I would encourage that people live their lives and have the occasional treat (1-2 times per month), I would say that it is time for people living in this age of entitlement to grow up and look the truth in the face.  Can and should are completely different things; just because you can eat something does not mean that you should.  When I am faced with a decision about what to eat or whether or not I should wake up at 5:45am to exercise, I remember what my goals are.  Yes, I want to be healthy and feel good and all of those great things.  However, what I have to admit to myself is that at the end of all of this exercise and clean eating, I want one thing.  I want to make the man who I select to be in a long-term, sexually-active relationship with absolutely crazy when I stand before him naked.  😉

My diet secret…revealed!

Okay, so I stepped on the scale this morning and being another pound down I have hit the 20% mark.  I am proud to say that I’ve lost that much of my body weight and I am ready to reveal my diet plan.  The first 10% or so came off through clean eating (little to no sugar or processed foods, whole wheat everything, fruits and vegetables, etc.).  This second half though can only be credited to what I’m going to call the active kid diet.  With my sights set on losing another 20%, the active kid diet is in full swing…allow me to describe.

  1. While doing the active kid diet, you need no less than two very small children in your bed to head butt, kick you or cry in the middle of the night.  If you cannot find said children, feel free to substitute with a kitten, puppy or alarm clock that will wake you at least twice.  Without this, you may have trouble craving the caffeine needed for the diet.
  2. After getting 5 hours of segmented sleep, you should get up and break up a nearly violent kid argument about who is which wiggle, doodlebop, imagination mover or some other such nonsense.
  3. Fix breakfast and feed it to someone else.  Once you’re done feeding them, fix something for yourself but before you sit down to eat, break up another argument or stop someone from jumping from a high place and injuring themselves.  Return to your breakfast to find that another child has knocked half of it off the plate/out of the bowl.  Clean that mess up then eat.  See! You’ve saved half the calories you were about to consume.
  4. You should follow the same steps for lunch and dinner, however one of those meals you should skip and simply eat whatever is left from plates that you fixed for others that still looks palatable.  You will easily save on your calorie intake.
  5. At some point during the day, you must chase a child/dog/cat or imaginary fly in several different directions to get the fork/pen/sharp object from them while they giggle and run.  Burning more calories…
  6. Don’t forget to drink your caffeine and water throughout the day!
  7. Last, but not least, go to be thinking of some dinner or dessert that you would have liked to eat but are too tired to make/reheat.  Grab a piece of fruit, glass of water then snuggle between those two kids/dogs/cats/alarm clocks and wait for it to begin again!
Happy dieting! 🙂